Hope on the other hand, is a future feeling and comes from the heart wishing peace and resolve. It’s not about YOU being the bigger person and someone else being smaller. It’s about you taking responsibility for your own happiness and not wishing anything less for the other person in this exiting relationship.
I have heard so many stories of pain and people harboring bad feelings for endless years. Who do those bad, punitive feelings hurt? They hurt the person that has yet to experience acceptance.
Allowing another person to experience happiness means you realize you deserve that same gift in return. And that gift is something you give to yourself. Do not wait for another person to tell you that you are worthy and loving. Have the strength to allow yourself to understand the bad happened, and look for the good moving forward. What were the good things in your marriage? Do you have beautiful children, grandchildren and memories you created? Let go of the heavy, deep anger and accept that the past will never be different- but the future is wide open and waiting for you.
Activity: Look at the Serenity Prayer and make a list of the things in your divorce you still don’t accept and see if you are willing to change things or not.
I am here- talk to me.