I’ve coached over a thousand women and men experiencing extreme feelings as they go through tough times in divorce situations. Endless days of negative talk and feelings of worthlessness keep people stuck in their repetitive patterns of their past.
The sad part of this equation is that most of the negative talk didn’t stop after the divorce, it continued for years. The challenge is not in getting the ex spouse to stop the negative talk and comments because most of the negative feelings came from within.
We have all experience negative talk at different times in our lives. Feelings of worthiness come when you allow the unknown into your world and cease to fight the unknown. As children, when we fell down in front of others or made a mistake in front of the class, the fear of ridicule took over and we retreated into a world of self destructive talk and self pity.
What habits do you engage in that make you feel terrible for the entire day? These destructive habits are more common than you may think; overeating, unhealthy food choices, gossip, road rage, jealous, greed and even envy.
All of these feelings stem from fear. The fear in not having or doing without something you truly want or feel you deserve keep the negative thoughts alive. Feelings of worthlessness means there is something inside of you that you are not accepting about yourself.
You must understand that no matter what your current situation, you have the right to move towards happiness and joy in your life.
Start today on your journey of feeling worthy with just one exercise:
1. Make a list of all the things you do well and that you are most proud.
2. Now, post this list on your mirror in your bathroom and read it right before you brush your teeth.
Why at that time? A strange thing happens when people brush their teeth. As the brush moves over the teeth it activates the senses and the brain begins to think about the day and recent thoughts.
Rinse your mouth- look in the mirror – smile and say out loud- today I am worthy of good things!
Allow yourself to experience joy and happiness. You deserve it.
Helping people find their happiness,